Winter - Spring 2018

It's mid March, but this is what mid December should look like: snowy and windy. This winter-spring has been one of the most challenging times of my life, not because it was hard or anything bad,  but because it was quiet, really quiet.

My stressful job with my previous employer left me questioning myself and I felt like I was loosing grip of my life and self.

It's a challenge to keep calm and be positive when you're depressed and unhappy with your life. Most effective treatment is to evaluate yourself, bin your worries and negative thoughts, and with baby steps, continue your journey while doing"you", make whatever makes you happy and helping others achieve their dreams.

We're all dust in the wind...

@westlondon

Heir

As a child, I thought my parents are super heroes that are capable of anything and nothing can stand in their way. I still think the same today. Soon, time will come for me to be the superhero of my kids' life. Am I ready? Am I going to be a great father and a loving spouse? Are my knowledge and values worth spreading? We'll see.

Adevăruri efemere

George, petreci prea mult gândindu-te la zilele trecute și regizându-ți prezentul, tânjind după discuții profunde și gesturi intime din partea oricărei persoane care îți vorbește sau care îți răspunde mai repede, sperând că aceea va vrea să îți deschidă ușa viitorului ei.

Când ea va fi disponibilă, ia-o de mână și trage-o în brațele tale, sa isi așeze capul pieptul tău, apoi lasă ca in tacerea camerei sa auda bataile inimii tale care se liniștește. Mangaie-o pe cap si spune-i lucruri adevărate invat-o sa gaseasca pace in sufletul ei, iar cand te va întreba de ce tii la ea, sa ii spui ca "dintr-un interes profund si o bucurie sfanta" de-ai fi aproape in orice clipa. Poate, poate vei primi ceea ce iti doresti: o persoana alaturi de care sa iti creezi un viitor. Nu trebuie neapărat sa fie ea, cea care iti sta in brate, pentru că poate a doua zi aceasta va inceta sa îți vorbeasca, dar tu fi fericit pentru ca ai avut un moment de sinceritate cu tine si ai sadit in pamantul vietii tale semintele unei recolte bogate, ce va fi sa vina doar daca vei avea rabdare si vei lucra spre folosul ei.

Suntem intr-o constanta căutare de suflete care sa fie binecuvantate de prezența noastră si alaturi de care sa devenim mai puternici. Daca nu am mai construi ziduri ci am contrui poduri intre noi, poate am avea mai mult curaj sa ne ștergem lacrimile si am înceta să mai credem in adevaruri efemere.

Tampon

Apoi ia-ți timp și recompune-te. Ai nevoie de o perioadă de tampon, între acțiune și reacție, în care să înțelegi ce ai de făcut. Imaginează-ți că te arzi și că te doare, apoi înveți să suporți durerea și să o ignori treptat.

Dacă ne uităm in trecut, zidurile cetăților serveau de multe ori ca tampon, astfel încât locuitorii să aibă o tranziție între viața cotidiană și starea de asediu, oferindu-le​ suficient timp cât să își adune armele si să se apere.

Când cineva te lovește, întreabă-l prima data de ce, apoi apără-te. Apară-te cu tact, astfel încât să aștepte cu drag întâlnirea cu dracu'.

Să te duci la somn cu gândul că ai făcut tot ce ai putut. Să ai calmul necesar de a nu fii zguduit de ura și reproșurile celor din jur. Să te respecți suficient de mult încât să nu te iei la ceartă cu ei.

Să vezi în tine o persoană capabilă să facă din noapte, zi. Să crezi în tine și să îți creezi un viitor atunci când lumea aruncă cu pământ și pietre.

Ascultă-le tâmpeniile și răspunde-le doar după ce au terminat toți de vorbit. Prezintă faptele și argumentează-ți fiecare pas, astfel încât să vadă că nu pot să te bântuie cu prostiile lor. Apară-te cu aceeași pasiune pentru viață și tărie cu care s-a luptat a treia maimuță să urce pe Arca lui Noe. Oh! Cerul tună și începe să picure!

@london
#220buswansworthtohammersmith

About weddings

Getting through the week is sometimes challenging. My Spanish teacher used to say that if Monday is gone, the whole week is gone.
I love Mondays and Friday evening feels like a mini-holiday.

There are few more weeks until my sister is getting married in Church and I can't wait for that day to finish with smiles and blessings from Above.

Not long ago I didn't believe in the institution of marriage, but once I read the laws and what God gives to and expects from the couple, I realized that is a celebration and official statement of what should already be there: love.
I'm not keen of big weddings, that are very expensive, because I seen no point in waisting £50-150k for just one day, when you could use that money to buy a mortgage.

My kind of wedding is on a Friday afternoon, just few hours before the sunset, in the mountains next to a lake, where the couple shares stories about their love and plans of the future, what they're hopeing to achieve together and how everyone present will have the responsibility to help them achieve their goals.

Wedding shouldn't be a statement of wealth, but more of an expression of love and identity of the couple. If your wedding is kitsch, is because you are so.

There is no point in having 300 guests that you don't know, but 20 that mean the world to you.

Couples should always seek to have both religious and legal communion.

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When you're a child, is hard to imagine that your parents had their separate ways before you were born. The world started when you took your first breath of air, and angels commissioned by your parents, gathered to welcome you singing their songs of praise and happiness. Soon the magic started to fade, as you gained knowledge and you became the person you are today.

Even though knowledge is not something that you can grasp, is far more valuable than money. Your looks will fade and your body will fail, but knowledge remains and can be gained and shared infinitely.

What would you choose between 50 million Euros or all available knowledge?

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TheEverday is an opportunity to do more and as long as you're breathing, you still have a chance to change your life for the better.

Some people say this blog depresses them, others love it and quite a few find it interesting. Spend some time here and decide for yourself.

I started writing in English because of my international friends, whom I love and respect very much. Wish I could have a cup of coffee with you all today!

I believe in science and God, because one explains what the other can't do it in words. They complete each other.

I've said it and I'll say it again: having the right kind of people next to you is a blessing.

Admitting your faults can sometimes work against you, but it takes courage to do so. One of my weaknesses is getting up early in the morning. I'm not a morning person, so I need 3 alarms to wake up.

There was a time in my life when I used to be late to every appointment or date that I've had, but being annoyed by the other people being late. Now I've changed and I like to be on time and I really appreciate when I don't have to chase the other person 50 times by text/call to confirm a date/appointment.

I have people that I look up to. I have people that I admire. I have people that I don't like, but I don't hate them. I don't have idols and I'm not into sports, music or grouping. I don't have preferred things or colours that I can't live without; I just like stuff that is good, well made, great priced and makes me feel better.

I believe that a great partner completes  you and doesn't want to change you because feels that you're enough. A good partner will want to build a strong team of two so you can rule the world together. Of course looks are important! Of course money are important, but not in the way people think that money bring you the happiness and way of life that will compensate for feeling unwanted or unloved.

Midlife crisis

When you're a teenager, you imagine life at a level that makes you dream big about making a difference, with personal happiness and noble achievements. You are genuine about your thoughts and you embrace your uniqueness, so you start living according to your hopes and dreams.

Then you get to your late 20 or early 30, you start realising that your dream life is different from your reality.

You look at your high school or university colleagues and see happy families with kids, pets and trips around the world. But you got nothing like that.

You try talking to your friends and they keep bragging about their accomplishments and money. But you got nothing like that.

You feel betrayed and unhappy, so you want to give up. You feel like not having made the most of your future.

Your needs are different.

You want inner peace and a clean conscience, and this can't be bought...

Life is never as expected.

People will always disappointed you and you will always need some time off reality.

The key is to learn living with your mistakes and failures. And you got Heaven's help on that.

You must love and accept yourself as you are so you can be able to help others and love them as the total disasters they are.

Make the most of your life, as it is! You can do this!

1 second before

The next station is 'Gloucester Road. Change with the Circle Line.'

Some days are better than others, some people are better than others, not because they're special (all are the same), but because of what they do or what you do with them. Technically,  all your days are the same. They're just days. But you are changing because of what you do, what you think and how you react to someone else's action against you.

For most people being good or bad is a choice. In less than a second, your brain is asking you: 'Should we go ape style or should we keep calm down?' And then you choose according to your preference of the evaluated consequences. Some people don't know how to cope with loses or high intensity emotions. Others do.

What about you?

Punch hard and steady

-Where are you?
- In a hotel, in Romania. What's going on?
- I'm dying.
- Aren't we all?
- I mean like now.
- What happened?
- She left me! he starts to cry.
- What?!? But you were engaged...
- She packed her bags and left 10 minutes ago. She cheated on me man! Oh.. And now she's moving in with that bastard! 
- Wow!
- For almost 2 months she cheated on me and I didn't even realised it! Man, I don't know what to do anymore! I feel like punching someone... and... uhm... man, I'm dying! I can't take this!
- You've been here before, so try to calm down. You need to control yourself and have a clear mind. Can you go swim?
- I don't know...
- I know it's Easter time and all might be closed, but go to the gym and swim for couple of hours. Then go upstairs and bunch those bags. Let your anger there and hit hard and steady, as if you're fighting for your life.
- I can't...
- Yes you can! You have to!
- She cheated on me...
- And now you have to let go of her and control yourself. You're gonna get over it in no time if you stay focused on your future.
- Easier said than done.
- I know you've got this!
- How do you know?
- Don't ask stupid questions. I have to go now. I'm waited downstairs.
- Ok, go. Everyone is leaving me.
- Man, focus! Don't let your emotions control your actions. Stay strong. I'll text later to check on you. Bye now.

Home visit

2nd night home and I can't sleep. Why?

A lot of memories go through my head. They remind me of my beginnings and I can see how far God has taken me and how I became a man. I grew up so much and I say: "Thank you Father for giving me the strength and wisdom to get here. Thank you for my family. Please keep me healthy so I can do more!"

Trust more.

Help more.

Be more!

Tall

I love being tall and I wish people would stop treating us like we're the smaller sibling of the giraffe.

Everytime I see a tall person (above 6'4") I keep falling in love with myself and this amazing gift from God. As a child I remember praying "Please help me grow up and stand tall like a mountain" and He was kind enough to listen to that innocent prayer.

Being 6'6" (198cm) is hard only when it comes to:
- clothes: only couple of brands have acceptable apparel;
- shoes: only few brands make size 13.5 UK (48);
- ladies: even though I might love a 5'4" she might find it awkward to date a poplar;
- cars: I love Porsche or Mini, but chances of me ever owning one are zero;
- low level ceiling: a real problem;
- regular airplane seats: I hate those bastards!
- bed: anything below king size is a struggle. But I got used to sleeping with my feets out of the bed...

I could moan about a lot more, but I get used to designers not having giraffes in mind when they work on a new product, and I always find a work-around.

Stand tall brothers and sisters!

The Sun, the Planets and The Universe

My dear friend,

If you are a star, then you are the Sun. If you are the Sun, then your kids are the planets revolving around you. If you are the Sun and your kids are the planets, then your lovely wife is the Universe that makes everything happen.

God bless you!

Primavara

In scoala generala, oracolul era foarte popular si ma hotarasem sa imi si eu unul ca sa aflu daca fata de care imi placea, ma simpatizeaza. Imi amintesc cum Aida, o colega, m-am invatat cum ce intrebari trebuie sa pun ca sa primesc raspunsul dorit. Asa ca intr-o zi, mi-am luat inima in dinti si i-am dat Anei oracolul.
In liceu am incercat sa tin un jurnal si imi amintesc ca imi treceam activitatile zilnice intr-o agenda pe care o primisem de la mama.
Anii au trecut si acele cuvinte au ramas pierdute pe niste foi ratacite in debara. Multe dintre aceste amintiri s-au uitat.

Ador primavara. Este anotimpul meu preferat. In facultate am fost invatati sa nu avem lucruri preferate, dar nu ma pot abtine: ADOR PRIMAVARA! O iubesc! As vrea sa fie primavara tot anul.

cate doua cuvinte

pierdem oameni
pierdem vieti
pierdem amintiri
pierdem nadejde
pierim surzi
ramanem nuzi
visam deloc
credem nimic
ucidem dimineti
crapam nopti
negam viitorul

Cald

Din cuvinte rătăcite fac povești zbârcite,
N-am dor, ci nerăbdare.
Vreau cai zburați de motoare.
Mai beau un pahar de secunde topite
Și mă-nchin pe-al tău umăr Tatălui Sfânt,
Bucurând grâul, marea și-al meu colț de pământ.

@london 291116

Salut - 191116

Salut.
A trecut ceva timp de cand m-am oprit sa discutam. 2016 a fost un an dement, socant si fericit. Nu stiu cum altfel as putea sa il descriu. Pe plan personal, viata s-a imbunatatit, iar binecuvantarile de la Tata au facut ca sa timpul sa treaca mai usor. Pe plan international, macro, anul asta s-au intamplat o groaza de mizerii.
Doamne, iti multumim ca ai mila si grija de noi!

Azi e Sabat. Am destul de mult timp sa ma fac introspectie si sa analizez ce s-a intamplat, astfel incat sa hotarasc ce am de facut mai departe.

M-am plimbat destul de mult anul asta si am descoperit locuri noi si oameni minunati. [Sora mea m-a intrebat ce fac si i-am raspuns: "Mazgalesc niste cuvinte."] Mare parte din anul acesta am fost sofer de Uber/minicab (taxi) si am avut experiente placute si urate. Saptamana asta am avut o discutie cu un ateu, care mi-a spus ca a fost alegerea lui sa nu mai creada in Dumnezeu, pentru ca religia catolica in care a crescut, l-a invatat ca oamenii pacatosi vor suferi vesnic si el nu vrea sa accepte sa se inchine unui zeu crud si care gaseste placere in vesnica suferinta a creatiei sale. De asemenea, el a amintit ca tatal i-a parasit familia cand avea 10 ani si, dupa aniversarea lui de 15 ani, mama sa a trecut in nefiinta. I-am spus ca imi pare rau pentru el, ca ii inteleg suferinta din copilarie, pentru ca al meu tata a murit cand inca aveam 11 ani. Dansul a zambit, si-a pus mana pe umar meu si a zis: "Stai linistit, a trecut. Vad ca ne-am descurcat destul de bine si am ajuns doi adulti puternici." Avea dreptate. Am trecut peste suferinta, pentru ca durerea nu este vesnica, ci doar consecinta ei este eterna si irevocabila. Am cautat sa ii explic printr-o ilustratie ca pedepsirea celor rai nu se va produce printr-un iad de foc vesnic, ci Dumnezeu ii va distruge pe aceia care i-au intors spatele intr-o singura ocazie, pentru ca El nu gaseste de cuviinta ca sa chinuie oamenii aceia o eternitate. II va nimici si gata. A zambit si mi-a spus ca Dumnezeul pe care el in cunoaste nu este acela pe care eu il descriu. Ne-am strans mainile si a plecat.

'Our Father' ring

This week I've received two amazing compliments, unrequested and unexpected. The first one was from a wonderful guy who told me: "I wish you and my sister form a couple. You are an amazing guy and you'd really make her happy." This kind of words you don't just throw them around. You only want what's best for your sibling. That person has to be unique and exceptional for you to think that he's man enough for your sister. I was left speechless and after few moments, I told him that I appreciate him for being honest and I like that he had the guts to speak his mind.

Second compliment came from a girl that years ago took one of my rings and decided to keep it as a token. She told me that I'm one of the kindest people she has ever met and this ring of mine keeps her safe. On the ring are engraved the words of "Our Father" prayer.

Be kind and those with beautiful hearts will be able to see the work of our Father in you.

We are all the same

We are all the same: we are born and we die. Everything in between is just made of knowledge, emotions and deeds/acts.

Sa cunosti

Caută să cunoști o persoană în toate dintre următoarelor ipostaze:
- când e nervoasă și certată cu tine;
- când are un moment de maximă vulnerabilitate și dependență de tine;
- când e înfometată bine;
- când e nedormită și e obosită foc;
- când e în centrul atenției și e foarte fericită;
- când e tristă și ignorată de toată lumea;
- când are opțiuni și tu ești doar una dintre ele;