Have the courage to tell the one you like about how you feel. Do it in a nice way, calm and balanced. Be kind and don't worry about the reply. What's the worst thing that can happen? Ignorance, but that's bliss because it's better to try and be refused than chicken out. If they reject you based on your height, weight or facial hair... be happy that you will not waste your time with them.
(I hope this story will help you. Somehow)
- Dave, let me buy you a coffee. I need to share this with you.
- What did you do?
- Nothing. It's just a memory from about 10-12 years ago.
- Surprise me!
- So there was this tall blue eye blonde girl that I liked. I've seen her in church and I thought it would be ok if I could talk to her, but she made me be really nervous around her. One day I man up and approach her:
"- Hi. Sorry to bother.
- Hi.
- I know this is church but I wonder if you'd like to go out for a cup of tea sometime next week.
- How dare you?! Can't you see how you look?! And were at church! I'm busy and sorry, I have to go."
As she went, I put a fake smile on my face and I was trying my best to hold the tears from coming. I was ashamed of myself. I wasn't the best looking man but certainly I was not a beast.
Years after, I find her on Facebook and add her as friends. She declines it so I message her: "Maybe you don't remember me, but we used to go to the same church."
- You crazy bastard! Did she reply?
- Yeah she did. She said "Probably. Wait. Are you Ana's brother?
- Yes I am.
- Good. Add me again so we can talk more."
- What is wrong with you?
- Everything. So we start texting, I get to know her a bit more, she's really smart, she likes my stories, laughs at my stupid jokes and one day she agrees to meet and invites me to her place.
- Excuse me?!
- Yup. So I go there, makes a cup of tea, we talk about life and when emotions are high, she hugs me.
- Sorry, what?!
- She hugs me hard and starts crying. We were just laying there, on her bed, hugging and crying about memories.
- You're joking!... Did you smoke anything?
- Nothing. Anyways, long story short, soon after I go home, later we start dating, I ask her to marry me two-three weeks later...
- Can you please repeat? I think I'm going deaf.
- Yes, I've asked her to marry me.
- And let me guess, she ran away.
- Indeed...
- I knew you're stupid, and until now I had no idea of how much that means.
- Yeah, probably. So she stopped replying, shuts off and gets back with her ex. They got engaged and last year they've had this amazing wedding.
- Unbelievable!
- Is it?
- It's unbelievable how stupid you are when it comes to women!
- Don't tell me it never happened to you!...
- The closest I've been was when I told a girl that I don't want to fool around and I want us to have a proper relationship. Later she went home and refused to reply to all my future attempts of contacting her.
- It's the same.
- No it's not! I never tried to marry her in our first month! Anyways... Some other time stupid me fancied a girl that used to date one of my mates, and we met after it ended and she enquired me about my behaviour as a boyfriend, so I started doing a SWOT analysis in a McDonald's while writing her name in sugar.
- Is she hot?
- Yes she is, and classy too. But she loves to be in the center of attention as Prima Donna and all her fans would've been left crying if she started dating again.
- The girls you chase are mean.
- Look who's talking!
- Well, at least I had the guts to tell her how I really feel.
- Don't confuse guts with stupidity!
- Dave, what is wrong with us?
- Nothing mate! When you're desperate and available, girls see it and avoid you by all means.
- I'm not desperate.
- I know you're not, but that's how they see us.
- How we're supposed to communicate? They never start conversations, they just wait for Prince Charming to take them to the castle on an unicorn.
- It's not you.
- The unicorn?
- No. Prince Charming.
- Maybe...
- I'm not gonna blame you for trying, just be more selective. Girls decide who is the lucky winner, so you just have to try until you succeed. Do it with style. Make her want you before asking her out. Dress smart and listen to them. When you talk, it has to be as easy and an natural as with your mother or sister. Be present, enjoy the moment and it's her choice to reply. You can't change people's minds, but you can enjoy life and do good.
